FALLIN IN LOVE IS NOT LOVE

Falling in love is not love itself. Attraction is not love itself.

Most of the times, you are just infatuated but it’s not like you want to live with the person forever and ever.

Personality can be intriguing.
What a person is able to do, can be a strong attraction factor.
A person who can sing like an angel, a person who can rock the stage with a guitar, and a person who is creative and artistically inclined, a person who runs his own business, a person who speaks and affirm well, a radical thinker;
all these are just of “doing”.

To totally miss out “being” as one of the attraction factor is a disaster.
A person’s character doesn’t just change overnight.
Generosity, humbleness, kindness, emotionally strong, determination, forgiving, understanding, a genuine listener, godly, always strive for improvement, caring, and others which are not related of what a person “do” but what the person is “being”, quite effortlessly.

It’s not easy to see that from the surface, but perhaps time will reveal.

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